Photo Credit: David Travis,

There’s more than meets the eye. Oh, heck yeah. A lot more.

One of the most common desires that I hear from people that I work with is clarity. So here are examples of situations where they often want more clarity:

  • Life purpose
  • Ideal career or career goals
  • Calling or vocation
  • Seeing the purpose or reason for difficult experiences
  • How to get along with difficult people

There are more, but I’ll stop there.

Clarity–for a lot of us–simply means “knowing.” We want to know what’s currently unknown. And when the answer doesn’t come quickly or easily, we often feel frustrated. And rightfully so! We’re wired to feel safe and secure. Uncertainty triggers our little safety radar and says, “Warning! Uncharted territory ahead!”

But how do we get this “clarity?” Where does it come from?

There are two practices to gain more clarity.

The first–my favorite and yours–is acceptance. Yes, it’s time to change our relationship with uncertainty. For too long we’ve labeled uncertainty as “bad.”

What would change for you if you thought that uncertainty wasn’t good or bad but simply a thought and a feeling?

That’s what it means to be accepting. To be aware of what’s happening without trying to fix it or wish it were different.

Remember that little safety radar? When we come to embrace uncertainty and release judgment, the radar calms down. Why? Because you’re telling the safety radar that uncertainty isn’t good or bad. It just is.

So practice building your awareness any time you feel uncertain. A great way to do that is to keep an “Uncertainty journal.” This can be on paper (which is my preference) or digitally using something like Evernote or Google Docs.

The second practice is connecting the dots.

To strengthen your ability to get clarity around what you want, where you’re going, or answers to your deepest questions, you need to get better at connecting the dots.

Connecting the dots simply means our ability to see the connectedness between all things. This is where the adage “hindsight is 20/20” comes from. When you reflect on the past, you can see how all the little events connect together to bring you exactly where you are right now . . . and I bet it’s been a wild journey!

It’s easier to connect the dots through the past, but what about the present and the future? That’s where this second practice comes into play.

You need to practice seeing beyond what you see.

Let me give you an example: I love to play the ukulele. It’s such a fun, versatile, simple, and pleasant sounding instrument. When I look at it, I see the wood body, the metal hardware, and the nylon strings. If I look even more closely, I see the iridescent inlays, the gold lettering in the brand, and the pieces that make up the bridge.

Cool. Easy enough.

Now, look deeper! I see the trees that provided the wood for the body. Inside the body, there’s a sticker that says, “Built by craftsman in Indonesia.” Perhaps I see those craftsmen with sawdust on the floor surrounded by wood and tools. Maybe I see the iron in the earth that was purified and molded into the hardware that keeps the strings in tune.

And now, even deeper! I see the sun growing the trees. And I smell dirt surrounding the roots that absorb minerals from the ground. I imagine the formation of the earth and the molten iron swirling within. I hear oceans crash and watch the clams create their iridescent shells.

There’s more than meets the eye . . . and you have the power to see the miraculous world beneath what only your eye can sense, your ears can hear, your nose can smell, your tongue can taste, or your skin can feel.

Learn to see the interconnectedness of things, right here, right now, and you’ll clarify some of the mysteries that you long to uncover.

Crossing the TEA’s

Now, let’s check out the energy levels behind these Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions:

Low-Energy TEA:

  • Thought: I don’t have clarity
  • Emotions: Perplexed, Confused, Frustrated, Annoyed, Judgmental
  • Actions: We often search for the answers online, in books, or other external resources.

High-Energy TEA:

  • Thought: I embrace uncertainty and I see the connectedness of the Universe.
  • Emotions: Awe, Curiosity, Wonder, Excitement, Peace, Calm, Certainty, Confidence
  • Actions: We practice awareness of our emotions, letting go of judgment, and sensing the connectedness of things.

Want to experience more clarity, acceptance, and connect the dots in your life? Schedule a free discovery call with me.

Photo Credit: David Travis,