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You don’t know who you are.

That’s okay–I don’t know who I am either . . . at least not completely.

Honestly, uncovering more about who you are is, in my opinion, a life-long journey. But that doesn’t mean we stop learning more about ourselves.

Why? Because when we’re living life more in alignment with who we are, we experience remarkable things.

  • Flow
  • Purpose
  • Authenticity
  • Meaning
  • Truth

These feelings are so powerful that many throughout history have gone to extreme lengths just to understand more about themselves. They go on pilgrimages, climb mountains, or go into deep meditative states.

Those are great and people have gained amazing insights from doing those things.

For me, however, I’m a huge fan of simple yet versatile–which means that I focus on finding simple, reliable, yet dynamic and flexible ways to do things.

So if you want to learn more about who you are without secluding yourself in a cave for 40 days (not that there’s anything wrong with that), I have another idea for you.

I call this process “Integrative Inspiration.”

Ironically, I ask you to look outside yourself first.

  • Step 1: Make a list of three to five people who inspire you. These can be real people (living or dead) or they can be fictional characters that you admire.
  • Step 2: List three to five qualities that those people/characters embody that inspire you.
  • Step 3: Remind yourself that you have the very same qualities within you. But, wait–how do you do that?

Well, here’s the thing. There’s a saying that goes, “If you see it, you got it.” This means that by the mere fact that you recognize inspiring qualities within others, you have the same qualities within you. You wouldn’t be able to recognize those qualities if you didn’t already have the capacity within yourself to be the same.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you go around pretending you’re the same as the people you listed in step one–in fact, that would detract from the diverse tapestry of humanity of which you’re here to provide your unique gifts and energy–but you do have the opportunity, right now, to give yourself permission to recognize those inspirational qualities within yourself, and then express those qualities in your own unique way.

Sometimes we feel like we’re “less” than our heroes because they do things we believe we can’t do. And that reaction makes a lot of sense. We’re comparing ourselves to others which–as we learn in Buddhism–that comparison is at the core of suffering.

So instead of comparing yourself to your inspiring heroes, view them as signposts or as guides. Often, their simple existence in your consciousness gives you a roadmap of the inspiring qualities you already have and want to develop within yourself.

And guess what?

You, too, are an inspiration to others.

You’ve expressed qualities within you that have inspired numerous people along your way. You may not know it, but you have. I know this to be true because every person on this planet has the potential to be greater than they think they are. And the success you’ve already experienced–no matter how large or small–inspired people along your journey. You can’t help it! You’re human, which connects you to all of humanity (even if you like to keep to yourself; no one’s an island).

Be inspired. Inspire others. And together we’ll raise the absolute potential for what’s possible.

Crossing the TEA’s

Now, let’s check out the energy levels behind these Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions:

Low-Energy TEA:

  • Thought: I don’t know who I am. I’m not like the people that I admire.
  • Emotions: Suffering, Confusion, Lost, Sad, Undervalued
  • Actions: We look for even more inspiring people to look up to or we resign to the “fact” that we’ll never be like our heroes.

High-Energy TEA:

  • Thought: I’m curious to uncover more about who I am and express my unique self.
  • Emotions: Curious, Open, Flexible, Wonder, Dynamic, Inspired, Inspiring, Playful, Expressive
  • Actions: Practice Integrative Inspiration 😉

Want help expressing the powerful, inspiring, qualities within you? Schedule a free discovery call with me.

Photo Credit: Peter Fogden,