Photo Credit: Nick Fewings,

Written by Jeff Newman
October 18, 2019

After many years of trials in my life, I was introduced to the art of expression from some mentors of mine—people like Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, and Miguel Ruiz (to name a few). I learned that success leaves clues. They coached and guided me in many areas in my life: personally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. 

One common denominator between them all was keeping a journal for gratitude. 

“Count your blessings” and “be grateful” were common themes I continue to model. 

That’s when it hit me. Being grateful is such an important practice to hold onto in this fast-paced world in which I live—simply noticing and being mindful of the things I have makes an enormous difference in my fulfillment and quality of life. So, every morning as my ritual, I take my journal and write a minimum of three things that I’m grateful for.   

This routine, however, morphed into something larger. I needed to ask myself the question of why I was grateful. That’s when spirituality seeped into the picture and I wrote a Self-Love Mantra which I chant often while I maintain my journal to reinforce the love I have for myself. 

I invite you to read my mantra and use it as you see fit:

Today, I ask that you help me accept myself just the way I am, without judgment. Help me to accept my mind the way it is, with all my emotions, my hopes and dreams, my personality, my unique way of being. Help me to accept my body just the way it is, with all its beauty and perfection. Let the love I have for myself be so strong that I never again reject myself or sabotage my happiness, freedom, and love.

From now on let every action, every reaction, every thought, every emotion be based on love. Help me to increase my self-love until the entire dream of my life is transformed—from fear and drama to love and joy. Let the power of my self-love be strong enough to break all the lies I was programmed to believe—all the lies that told me I wasn’t good enough, or strong enough, or intelligent enough, or that I can’t make it. 

Let the power of my self-love be so strong that I no longer need to live my life according to other people’s opinions. Let me trust myself completely to make the choices I must make. With my self-love, I’m no longer afraid to face any responsibility in my life or face any problems and resolve them as they arise. 

Whatever I want to accomplish, let it be done with the power of my self-love. Starting today, help me to love myself so much that I’ll never set up any circumstances that go against me. I can live my life being myself and not pretending to be someone else just to be accepted by other people.

I no longer need other people to accept me or tell me how good I am because I know what I am. With the power of my self-love, let me enjoy what I see every time I look in the mirror. Let there be a big smile on my face that enhances my inner and outer beauty.

Help me feel such intense self-love that I always enjoy my own presence. Let me love myself without judgment because when I judge, carry blame and guilt, I have the need for punishment and I lose the perspective of my love. Strengthen my will to forgive myself at this moment. Clear my mind of emotional poison and self-judgment so I can live in complete peace and love.

Let my self-love be the power that changes the dream of my life. With this new power in my heart—the power of self-love—let me transform every relationship I have, beginning with the relationship I have with myself. Help me to be free of any conflict with others. Let me be happy to share my time with my loved ones and to forgive them for any injustice I feel in my mind. Help me love myself so much that I forgive anyone who has ever hurt me in my life.

Give me the courage to love my family and friends unconditionally, and to change my relationships in the most positive and loving way. Help me to create new channels of communication in my relationships so there’s no war or control, there’s no winner or loser. Together let me work as a team for love, for joy, for harmony.

Let my relationships with my family and friends be based on respect and joy so I no longer have the need to tell them how to think or how to be. Let my romantic relationship be the most wonderful relationship; let me feel joy every time I share myself with my partner. Help me to accept others just the way they are–without judgment–because when I reject myself, I reject those around me.

Today’s a new beginning. Help me to start my life over, beginning with the power of self-love. Help me enjoy my life to enjoy my relationships, to explore life, to take risks, to be alive, and to no longer live in fear of love. Let me open my heart to the love that’s my birthright. Help me to become a master of gratitude, generosity, and love so that I can enjoy all that’s given to me in every area of my life.

One of the reasons why gratitude and my mantra changed my life was that it shifted my focus. I believe now that my life’s all about focus, rather than positive thinking. By being grateful and chanting the love I have for myself, I now breathe positivity into everything I do. 

However, it’s all well and good to know that gratitude ought to be a priority, but what was coming up for me was how to practice it (there’s a vast number of ways in which I discovered). When I brought humor and practicality into the practice, it magnified my experiences of gratitude. 

The grateful experiences I speak of include optimism, enthusiasm, love, joy, and happiness, while protecting me from destructive emotions of envy, greed, bitterness, and resentment. Overall, gratefulness and my love make me aware of the good in others.

In conclusion, the advantages of being grateful on a personal level are unbelievable. Be thankful. Feel appreciative of what’s already there–which not only reduces stress, but will be a vehicle to a life of love, joy, and happiness.

Photo Credit: Nick Fewings,