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The most successful people in the world have a coach. What’s your excuse?

Did you ever ask why the most successful people in the world always talk about their coaches, their mentors, their advisers; and most importantly, why do they have any, to begin with?

These are bright, focused, successful people, so why are they asking anyone’s advice, right? To give a short answer: there’s no such thing as a self-made man or woman. The more intelligent you are, the more you know how little you know. They also know that anyone–no matter how bright, successful, or happy they may be- anyone needs support in different areas of their life. Why? Simply because as humans we’re not perfect.

All those successful people knew something that every child should learn.

  • First: humanity’s been here for quite a while and they all grew and evolved by adding to what existed already. Thanks to this, you and I are able to simply be alive after all. Reinventing the wheel’s not the most efficient form of evolution.
  • Second: as an African saying goes, “go by yourself and you’ll go fast. Go together and you’ll go far.” There’s so little a person can do by her/himself. We all need each other, and surrounding ourselves with bright people that can bring a difference in our environment, in the way we think and act is an elevator for success and fulfillment.

Coaches, mentors, advisers, and consultants are here to open a new way of thinking, to give ideas, and to allow ourselves to see what we can’t see (remember you can’t see the picture from the frame). As well as so much more. And yet the most important gift a coach offers to her/his clients is to believe in them.

To answer my initial question, here are a few overused excuses (call them reasons if you want, but we all know what they are) for not having a coach:

  • “I don’t believe in coaching.” This is the self-made person that still believes she/he knows it all and she/he is so much better than anyone. If you’re one of those it’s better to stop reading now.
  • “I don’t have money.” I’ve already addressed a few times previously about the money aspect and it’s basically, “don’t look at what it’s costing, you look at what it’s bringing you.” You still believe having a coach costs you money. Go without it. Try to see how many new ideas you come up within the next seven days. See how many doubts and judgments you had in the same period of time; and have a look at how much you made and how much you spent that week. Yes, it’s only a week, yet it may be representative of a whole life.
  • “I don’t have time.” Well, that’s a real one; and indeed, I won’t lie to you. Coaching not only takes time on the one-to-one sessions with your coach; but it also takes energy, commitment, focus, and intense time to work in-between sessions. It’s not just time, sometimes it’s a hard time. You’re going to shake the foundations of who you are and why you’re here, and let me ask you, “what’s taking your time today?” Imagine tomorrow if you spent less time in what’s taking your energy and more time on what brings you energy and success.
  • “I’m not ready yet.” Well, I hear you and you know I do congratulate you for being aware of what it may take. And yes, you have all the right to feel this is not your right time. But just let me ask you, what will make it the right time for you? How many days, weeks, months, years will you let yourself suffer, being just a shadow of your potential? What needs to happen for you to take action? As Buddha puts it wisely, “the problem with people is they believe they have time.”

The general, limited belief about coaching is that it’s for broken people. To be honest, coaching can do much for a very broken person, although therapy may help better. Coaching is mostly for people that want to go higher. Those are my clients.

You may want to check out the new post “Coaching: Where to Go (And Not…)” to know how to find a coach. In the meantime, put yourself in the most exciting seat–the life-business fulfillment seat–and reach out for a coach.

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