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Do you ever feel anxious about a relationship you’re having with another person?

Perhaps your relationship’s hit a bump in the road. You’re feeling incompatible, have nothing in common, or you’ve literally grown out of what you thought the relationship would grow into (or what it never became)?

Stephen Covey says “trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”

Take a look at the relationship you have with your writing. Whether you’re working on a dissertation or a personal memoir, you’re constructing some kind of relationship between yourself and the person who’s consuming your work.

You may be communicating information to educate, persuading your reader to feel or think a certain way, or coaching to improve someone’s lifestyle.

Effective communication’s essential as you build a relationship with everything you write. You alone add the personal touch necessary to create a bond you foster with your reader. Forming this relationship takes time and practice.

The style of writing you’re using will set the tone of what you convey. The use of quotes reinforces the content. Using your own personal stories to relate to the focus of the writing, also enhances the final product.

Having the courage to speak up and express yourself is one of the most difficult actions a writer faces.

If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable with the idea of getting your writing out to others, spend some time looking at the many different kinds of published works that are available to you. Start browsing at a bookstore or spend some time online. Narrow your focus to what you’d like to produce.

The good news is that there will never be a lack of copy or subjects to engage yourself.

Inspiration to write can appear when you least expect it.

I was driving down the road the other day having a conversation with my son and out of nowhere an idea came to me. When this happens to you, be sure to write the idea down immediately, especially if you’re unable to expound on the idea right away.

The best ideas are lost when you think your brain will automatically remember something at a later date.

Learning to trust that you’re fully capable of contributing your own uniqueness in the world of writing requires courage.

Take those ideas that are stirring in your mind and believe it’s possible that you have the power to make a difference.

Make it a goal to arouse the curiosity in your reader. Teach them something they don’t already know. Be positive in your writing delivery. People are more open to receiving what you write when your line of thinking’s open.

  • Showing your compassion and your vulnerability creates a deeper connection with your readers.
  • Keep judgment out of your writing. You can still convey a powerful message without it.
  • Emotional writing gives your readers something new to experience. Use a powerful story, something that’s happened to you. By sharing your own experience with the reader, the personal connection between you increases.

Here’s this week’s invitation: recall some past memories that created a positive effect on you. Relive the feelings you felt from this memory and use it to support a writing piece.

As always, feel free to comment below or email me at [email protected] with additional thoughts or questions.

Photo Credit: Hannah Olinger,