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“You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are.”

Fred Rogers

How Do I Know If I’m Being Authentic?

Being authentic requires you to first know what you value and who you see yourself as. Authenticity’s the thing that only you can actually be the one to judge for yourself. No one else can really tell you whether or not you’re being authentic. They can tell you whether you’re matching their expectations of you–but that’s it.

Know thyself. This is the absolutely essential first rule of living an authentic life. As Mr. Rogers says, “hopefully your choices come from a deep sense of who you are.”

Becoming intimate with yourself, learning what lies within and why it matters to you, takes time. It also requires solitude and a willingness to listen to the still voice within. A good dose of compassion and patience for the other part of your mind–the chatty part–is also really important. Authenticity’s about seeing all of your parts and loving what you find.

Signs You’re Living An Authentic Life

  1. When faced with a difficult decision, you’re able to choose what feels right to you–even when it’s less convenient or goes against what others want you to do.
  2. In challenging conversations, you’re able and willing to see where your own responsibility lies–as well as what’s outside your sphere of influence–and speak truthfully about it.
  3. You start your day acknowledging all of the gifts in your life.
  4. If friction develops in a relationship or situation, you connect to your values and choose to speak or act in ways that match them.
  5. You’re 100% accountable for the quality of your experiences in all areas of your life.

The First Step To Becoming Authentic

In order to develop the deep self-awareness and self-acceptance that living authentically requires, you’ll need to begin within. What are your values? Why are they important to you? How do you experience or express them in your life right now? If there are gaps, what do you want to do about them?

Most importantly, what barriers are keeping you from connecting to your true self? It’s vital to understand how they got there and to learn simple steps to dissolve them. Never forget that you already have everything you need within you and that living authentically is how you’re meant to be. It’s okay to reach out for help because sometimes you need a supportive, qualified coach to help you remove those blocks.

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About Zette

Zette Harbour is an iPEC certified life and leadership coach, and an award-winning professional storyteller who helps self-motivated, resourceful, creative women learn how to achieve complete confidence and become unstoppable in 90 days so they can have a sense of power over their lives without guilt, fear, or self-doubt.

Read more of her column Successful Awakenings and explore the limitless power of awakening to the brilliant and beautiful story of who you truly are.

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