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This is the second in a three-part series about the finest moments with my daughter, so far…

A few weeks after the conversation I told you about in my previous post, my daughter was going through a rough patch and the monsters in her dreams came back with a vengeance.

For days we were having the same conversation over and over. She kept saying that she had no power over the monsters in her dreams, while I was trying to convince her otherwise with unicorns and fairies and what not… to no avail.

In those times, she was heavily identifying with Elsa, from the movie, Frozen… She was angry at pretty much all the adults in her life because we had been shoving her around a bit too much lately, travelling here and there, disappearing and reappearing, inflicting a terrible jet lag on her, etc. What had worked for three years, hadn’t worked this year.

After a hefty dose of mommy guilt, I finally let go of it.

That’s when my daughter relaxed as well and started moving beyond angry Elsa. She asked lots of questions about love, the difference between love and true love, whether Anna saved Elsa or Elsa saved Anna. I learned so much from her during that time. In exchange, she got to see and experience a lot of that heart, I had been training so intently.

One night, we had one of those disempowered conversations about her dream monsters again and she said “My powers are gone, Mama, just gone!” 

That’s when I had an idea. I left the room to get my rose quartz heart – the one I’ve been carrying for a year now to help me speak from the heart.

As I returned to her room, I held it against my chest so she couldn’t see it and I asked: “You know that I have special powers in my heart, right?” I had to ask several times because she really wanted to know what I was holding in my hands. Finally, she looked me in the eye and nodded.

“Wanna know how I found that power?” She nodded again. “By carrying this stone around every time I’m about to enter a scary situation. It reminds me of my power and helps me use it.”

Her face was worth a million dollars.

She was so mesmerized at the sight of the stone. She asked a few questions.

“Is it like an amulet?”

Me: “Yes.”

“Why can’t I wear it on my neck? It’s just a rock?”

Me: “Yes, but a beautiful and powerful one.”

“If you like it so much for your heart, why are you giving it to me?”

Pause.

“Because we love each other. If you have it, I have it. And you need the reminder of the power in your heart right now.”

She hugged the rock, put her head on the pillow, and wished me a good night.

She hasn’t mentioned monsters at bed time ever since. Her sleep support team now includes unicorns and fairies with her heart always leading the way.

Credit: The concepts inherent in this article are the author’s interpretation of materials issued by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC).