Photo Credit: Nghia Le,
Photo Credit: Nghia Le,

There are many essential elements that go into creating success in life. Many of them involve outer activities like goal-setting, time-management, and achievement. Culturally, external factors like these are seen as essential to the experience of success. It’s less common to be encouraged to go within, to connect to your sense of self-acceptance and trust. Yet, it’s exactly these two attributes that make any outer success possible.

The Bathtub of Success

“Women who win in life accept themselves as they are: changing, growing, imperfect, and in the process of becoming all their potential allows them to be.”

Denis, Deborah, and Dayna Waitley, The Psychology of Winning for Women

The absence of self-acceptance makes achieving success highly unlikely. All of the affirmations, goal-setting, and even the acquiring of new skills will never truly create success for you until self-acceptance is in place. All of the things you do are like pouring water into a bathtub that has no drain plug. You can pour and pour as much water in as you want, but your tub will never be full.

You first must come to know who you really are.

There are different philosophies about how best to attain this self-knowledge, but nearly all of them involve time spent in silence or contemplation. This state brings about self-acceptance when you allow your mind to be open. Enter contemplation with a willingness to receive new information or awareness.

Expect no black or white answers. At best you may experience a momentary glimpse of you as being worthwhile simply by being. This awareness is the plug in your bathtub; and once in place, the enriching waters of your life will rise up to bathe you in warmth and renewal.

What’s Trust Got To Do With It?

“Believe in your idea, trust your instincts, and don’t be afraid to fail.”

Sara Blakely

What does it take to develop trust? When you took your very first step into toddlerhood you didn’t expect to fall, and falling didn’t eliminate your trust that the next step, and the next, would be more successful. You were hardwired to keep your feet moving. You still are–so think about your path now.

Do your steps feel just as wobbly?
Are you the only person who sees the value in your goal?

You know more than you think you do. Practice listening to yourself to build and grow the trust that moving forward’s the right thing for you to do.

Be A Good Listener

“Everyone has intuition – it’s just a matter of developing it.”

Jack Canfield

Just as you had the trust to begin walking, you also had the perfect ability to listen to yourself. Back then you didn’t even think of it as listening – the desire was there and you expressed it.  Along the way, this ability was pushed out by all of the information that came from everyone around you– but you’ve never lost it completely. With practice, you can gain back this important form of hearing. There are a number of simple, fulfilling ways to reintroduce this into your everyday life:

  • Gentle Stretching
  • Intentional Breathing
  • Journaling

Spending time with yourself, listening to what arises from within, and trusting yourself all create a steadfast foundation for your unique experience of success. Give yourself the gift of time to connect to your inner knowing– where the truth of your worth’s waiting to be discovered. The ownership of your identity and the completeness that it brings is the ultimate goal of life. You simply become success itself and you will see the fullness of your life rising up from within you.


Zette Harbour is a life purpose coach and an award-winning storyteller. Her column, Successful Awakenings explores the limitless power of awakening to the brilliant and beautiful story of who you truly are. Sign up for vibrant and vivacious updates from Zette at Morphosis to receive your FREE guide, Awaken to Your Native Greatness. Follow Zette at Morphosis Coaching on Facebook.